Let's talk relationships.  They are vital to your health. Just think, the most severe punishment that our society can come up with is solitary confinement.  Nobody wants that as it is a severe form of punishment. This shows how much we need relationships to function and to be healthy.

 The trouble is most relationships are not functioning properly.  Have you noticed how many middle aged couples are simply two people living together, not a couple?

 How many children don't talk to their parents?  How many people don't talk to their brothers or sisters? Dysfunctional relationships don’t nurture ones spirit and will lead to a life of frustration and dis-ease.

 New relationships always start off with a lot of energy.  However, with time the energy dissipates and slowly without knowing many end up in a dysfunctional relationship. The trouble is with time comes familiarity which breeds contempt, or at least indifference.

 In my practice I find it in a large percentage of my clients are dissatisfied with their relationships with their significant other.  Often times there is outright hostility yet they stay in this relationship, in a co-dependent role.

 One woman came to me with a health problem, she had breast cancer.  As an intuitive consultant I quickly told her that it had to do with her relationship with her husband.  She quickly agreed that she was in a poor relationship, she didn't feel she was appreciated, and that she felt unloved.  We worked with her on regaining her self-esteem, and together with traditional cancer therapy helped her to recover her health and her sense of worth.

 Do you take your relationships for granted?  A relationship is something that requires constant nourishment and attention. A relationship is also a 2-way street; both parties have to make the effort. 

 So let's be real, many of us, if not most of us, do not come from an ideal childhood.  Often there is abuse, violence, rejection or indifference in one's background.  This is life; the “Leave it to Beaver” television family just isn't reality.

 And so we bring our imprinting along with us as we begin to form life long relationships.  There is a lot of our parents in us; there is the imprinting from our past in us, and whether we know it or not we tend to repeat a lot of a situations that we consciously abhor.

 When it comes to our significant other, I find that many people are with their mates because it was the thing to do.  You get out of high school, you find someone, you get married and you're supposed to live happily ever after.

 And then comes middle age when we start to question ourselves, our role in society, and our relationships. Why did we marry this person?  Did we really marry our mother or a father? Do we really have anything in common? Do you feel stuck in a go nowhere relationship? These are the thoughts seem to come up.

 And we have many relationships.  We have relationships not only with our spouse but also with our children, our parents, our coworkers, or our neighbors and friends.  Again, upon what do we base our relationships if not on how we were trained as children?  Do we really want to go through the rest of our lives living the lives of our parents?

 Does this mean you should leave your spouse?  I don’t know, but I am suggesting you take a good look at who you are, what you want out of life and how you and your significant other work together.

 Do you have common goals together?  Do you still take time to play together?  Do you still enjoy being with each other?  Do you still have a sex life together?

 If the answer to any of those questions is no then you'd better start working on your relationship right now.  When was the last time you and your partner had a romantic evening together? I mean a real romantic evening; hotel, meal, dancing, the works.  Do you plan holidays together and do you both enjoy what you're doing?  Do you enjoy being with each other?

 I've worked with a lot of people as couples using my intuitive abilities and I have found that most often what is upsetting you with your partner actually has very little to do with them.  Most of the time what is upsetting you is really something they're doing that is tweaking a past memory, and most often the past memory has nothing to do with your partner.  When you can identify where the real irritant is coming from you will start to draw much closer to your partner.

 I also found that when one person is working on personal growth and development and their partner is not they tend to grow apart.  A relationship is two people growing together.  Yes you can have different interests but you must also share us strong interest in growing your relationship.

 One couple I worked with was together because it was very convenient.  Both had been in multiple relationships before, both had been hurt many times and both decided that their current situation was simply a relationship of convenience.  When they were worked on together as a unit, something clicked and they actually fell deeply in love with each other.  This couple felt so strong about their emotions for each other that they actually decided to get married.  This was something they both swore would never happen to them again.

 In another situation a couple came individually to see me to work on their personal growth and on their relationship.  In this case the woman realized this relationship was not what she wanted out of life, and it was actually stopping her from being all she wanted to be. She left the relationship.  She has since grown in leaps and bounds in her personal life and in her business career.  This is not an uncommon situation.

 So if you want to know what you really want to get out of your relationship, if you want to know why you are feeling the way you do, if you really want to make your relationship grow, come to Breaking Barriers on Sunday, October 5 and join us in exploring your relationships.  If you're ready to find out what you really want in a relationship join us.

 Breaking Barriers in October is already 50% sold out.  There are still seats left at only $49.00, but they will go fast. When they are gone, the price jumps to $300 each.  If you are at all interested check your calendar and go online right now and register at www.HowToBreakthrough.com

  Can't wait until November?  Call us right now and arrange a consultation. Start to discover who you really are, what your relationship is really all about and what you really want out of your relationship.  Time and distance are not obstacles.  We easily do telephone consultations with/or internet consultations and they work exactly the same as a live consultation.  The telephone saves you gas and time.   Call 613-592-8100

Tony Brunelle

Most people want more out of life. More money, more success, better relationships, more ... The problem is that wanting more and doing the work are two different things. We all start out with great enthusiasm and energy when embarking on a new adventure. But how quickly it fades with the least bit of inconvenience.

I have found that when people start to get uncomfortable they start to come up with excuses to postpone doing anything that causes them discomfort.
"I've got to check my day timer first"
"I'm going shopping for new furniture that day"
"I'm really busy for the next few days, weeks, months"

It is like the story of the farmer who went to his neighbour to borrow some rope. "Sorry, but I'm milking the cows this evening" said the neighbour. "Whats that go to do with me borrowing some rope?" ask the farmer. "Why nothing at all", said the neighbour, "but when you don't want to do something, any excuse is as good as another."

So we all say we want more, want a better life, more success, better relationship but do we really? How many times have you stopped yourself from succeeding?

It takes work to change and only a few seem to really want to grow and change. As Winston Churchill once said, "Man will occasionally stumble upon a great truth, but most will pick themselves up and carry on as though nothing ever happened".

Ask yourself which category are you in.

Dr. Tony Brunelle

http://www.awakeningpotentials.com/visualizations.htm

To paraphrase T. Harv Eker, “Give me 5 minutes with a person and I can tell you their financial future”. Why does he say this? Because everyone has an economic blueprint that is hard-wired into their DNA. As crazy as this sounds, it is true. We all have built in “human thermostats” that regulate everything we do, from our income levels to our relationships and more.

We are comfortable with a certain amount of money. Get too much and we manage to make it disappear like magic. How many lottery winners have you heard of who go through their winnings in a short time only to end up where they were in the first place? It won't happen to you of course, not to me either (I like to think).

Get too far behind in your income and you will find a way to bring yourself back up to your comfort zone.

But human nature is what it is. Watch a golf tournament where some unknown is suddenly leading the pack on day one. He will be interviewed on TV, and will say he doesn't know what happened to him and he hopes his luck keeps up. The next day comes and what happens? He drops way behind the rest of the field as his built-in thermostat corrects for his “good luck”. He is now where he is comfortable, back in the pack, out of the money.

Being in our comfort zone doesn't mean we like where we are. Consciously, most of time, we are quite unhappy about it and want to move out of it. But on a deep subconscious level, we are where we have been negatively conditioned to believe we are supposed to be. Money doesn't grow on trees, if you have money there will be less for everyone else, God loves the poor. These statements are just a small example of how we have programmed our subconscious, our cells and our DNA to control our financial future.

You've got to go deep into your subconscious to undo the negative beliefs that limit your life in so many ways. Positive thinking alone just doesn't do it!

Tony Brunelle

Check out the Breaking Barriers Workshop coming on May 4^th 2008. The focus will be on your financial thermostat.
Go to http://www.breakingbarriersworkshop.com

Procrastination

Just held a teleseminar on Jan 24th and one of the questions we answered was about procrastination.  It is one of the biggest reasons why people get off track, why we tend to lose focus and eventually just give up on our goals and dreams. 

We all know what procrastination is right?  Of course we do.  It's putting off what needs to be done.  Simple as that right?  Unfortunately there are many kinds of procrastination that we utilize and that are very subtle in their approach. 

Ever have something you are supposed to do but it causes a lot of angst?  You might simply decide to do it tomorrow, or next week and that’s fairly obvious procrastination.  Another way to procrastinate is to suddenly decide to get busy doing projects that have been accumulating.  You find it easier to "clean the house", make a run for office supplies, or call your buddy than doing the one thing that will bring you closer to your goal.  Now you are so busy you just don't have the time to get to the project, phone call or whatever that makes you uneasy.  This is the dangerous kind of procrastination because you convince yourself that you are not procrastinating; you're just too busy to get to it.  You will do it when you aren't so busy you tell yourself.

No matter how you cut it, it's still procrastination and if you really want to move your life forward, achieve your goals and dreams you must get this under control.

Make the important steps a priority.  Do them first and then do the ones that are of lesser importance later.  Uncomfortable but it will keep you moving in the right direction.

Tony Brunelle

http://www.asktonybrunelle.com/

What wakes you up at night?  And what worries pop into your head during the day?  These nagging thoughts are signs of specific difficulties, and a problem in one area will upset all aspects of your life. So what areas hold the issues that are stopping you from gaining control?  Is it money, career, job or perhaps your kids or your partner? 

If you can identify which area is taking over your life, then congratulations, you have completed the first step to gaining control.  Now you need to find the Real Cause, the original problem/stress/issue/incident that is causing you to think, act and feel the way you do.

Suppose you feel disenchanted with life, like you don’t fit in or find everything totally meaningless. . .  Try going somewhere alone where you won’t be disturbed.  Close your eyes and focus on your issue; let the frustrations, fears and angst flow.  Once you feel your distress, then ask yourself where did these feelings originate from?  What age were you, where were you living, what was happening in your world at that time? 

We get stuck in our past angst and keep re-living those emotions again and again, but with new people and different scenarios.  The realization that your negative emotions are almost always related to a past origin will help you move forwards.  Go ahead, give it a try.

Share with us your ways of coping, you might make a huge difference in someone else’s life. 

The best ideas are going to win 2 tickets to the May/2008 Breaking Barriers Workshop in Ottawa, Ontario.  (These tickets sell for $300 at the door.) 

Go to the following link to learn more about these workshops at www.breakingbarriersworkshop.com